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Getting What You Want In Life
Do you know what you want in life? When is the last time you took a few minutes to think about where you are in life and more importantly, where you want to be? What types of aspirations do you have? What's stopping you from writing a few of them down and making them a reality? The answer is YOU! You can do it. Are you ready to make those goals a reality? Do you really want it? Then you must make the decision. No one is going to do it for you. Whether you are a person who sets goals or aspirations or not, you likely have some things in your life you would like to achieve. Now is as good as any time to think about them, right? One good way to begin is to create a Mission Statement for your life. My Mission Statement is: "To allow God to use me and my business to touch others' lives for eternal purposes -- to bring the importance of God and family to the forefront of our lives." --What is your purpose in life? --What do you hope to accomplish in this life? --What do you most want to be remembered for? --What motivates and excites you? --What do you want to achieve and why? Don't limit the vision you have for yourself. Expand your dreams. If you can dream it, you can achieve it. What are your goals or ambitions in regards to your: --Faith --Spouse --Children --Work or business --Self --Financial --Physical Now think of each area and which you have goals that you would like to work towards. Write down the goals in each category that you hope to accomplish in the next few years. Make sure your goals are measurable and specific such as: spend 20 minutes per day studying my Bible, go on a date with my spouse at least once a week or save $200 per month towards retirement or college education. What steps do you need to take in order to reach each one of your goals? Write those steps down and give yourself a time frame on when you can expect to make progress towards and ultimately reach your goals. Now describe the results of achieving your goals. How will it enrich your life? How will your life be different? Make some note cards with each goal on it and how your life will be changed as a result of each goal achieved. Review them daily and renew your mind with the reasons for your goals and why you want to achieve them. Chart your progress and celebrate each step of the way until at last you achieve your goal and really celebrate! Only you can change or improve your life. Become intentional. Develop a plan and review it daily or weekly. Become passionate about your life and your dreams. What are you waiting for? Don't look back in a year or two wishing you had achieved something for yourself, your family or your business. Take charge now and begin your first step towards the life you've always wanted. Copyright HBWM.com, Inc. 2006

Lesley Spencer is the founder and president of the national association of Home-Based Working Moms (www.HBWM.com), the HBWM.com, Inc. Network of Websites and author of the Work-at-Home Workbook. She has a Master's Degree in Public Relations and has been featured in numerous media outlets including CBS News, Forbes, Business Week, Parents, Wall Street Journal and USA Today. She has been working from home for over 10 years and has two children whom she absolutely adores!

Bringing Change Into Your Life
What is change? The Merriam dictionary defines change as: Entry Word: change Function: noun Text: the act, process, or result of making different Synonyms alteration, difference, modification, redoing, refashioning, remaking, remodeling, revamping, revise, revision, reworking, variation Related Words amendment, correction, rectification; conversion, deformation, distortion, metamorphosis, mutation, transfiguration, transformation; fluctuation, oscillation, shift; displacement, replacement, substitution; adjustment, modulation, So we see from the Merriam dictionary change is a transformation. A person goes from one state of rest or existence to another state of rest or existence. Presumably if one has arms, legs, eyes, ears all the rudiments for action one can make a change. But actually change does not involve the arms, legs, eyes or ears change involves the mind. After a change has taken place, these appendices may be engaged but they have little to do with an actual change in behavior or thought pattern. Change involves developing a specific attitude, a specific way of talking, a specific way of walking and a specific way of viewing the world around you. Change involves seeing yourself at the helm, in command (self visualization), telling yourself and others what you will and will not do. Change involves concentration, determination and will power. Change involves engaging the psyche the real you. For change to take place one must get in touch with the person that is deep within; the person we all call the ‘real you.” Modifications are made internally then change is seen by the world. Although the Merriam dictionary defines change it does not tell us how to change. The dictionary does not tell us how to get from point A to point B successful. What do we have to do to change a facet of our lives? How is change accomplished? In order to make a change you need tools. You need a set of unique tools that when applied to your psyche you will not only change your thought pattern but you will remain motivated to change regardless of what is occurring around you. The tools you need to make a change to your psyche are not physical tools they are metaphysical tools. This point should be made clear it is the essence of change. Change must take place in the mind before that change can take place in reality. The tools you use to enforce a change in your life are those tools developed during maturation, adversity and contentment. Consequently, if you did not develop the necessary tools during these periods you will be deficient when it comes to making changes in your life. You may have to make adjustments in your life to implant the metaphysical tools you need so that you can make the required changes that you believe you need to make as you progress through life. Most assuredly these tools can be implanted through reading and rehearsing. Repetition is vital when seeking to change resistant behaviors, behaviors that have plagued you for a long time. Just because you are deficient of certain metaphysical tools and did not develop these tools during maturation learning is still possible it just requires a desire supported by an indomitable will. The world will tell you that there is no indomitable will. You must resign yourself to whatever comes your way. Eat, smoke drink and be happy. How can you possibly make a difference? You are to finish your days filled with rage thinking how could life be so unfair? If you look at the lives of Cardinal Mundelein and Nelson Mandela and others men and women cut from the same cloth, you will see indomitable wills are possible even in ordinary circumstances. Men and women become extraordinary by just saying no and digging in for the backlash. Imagine you are over weight. You have decided to lose weight. You are sitting at the lunch table and your girlfriend is eating a Twinkie and she offers you one. What do you do? What tool do you use to remain on course to do what you said you were going to do regardless of what is occurring around you? One of the tools you may use in this situation is determination (developed during adversity). You may call upon your determination to over come your desire for that Twinkie. The determination will make you recall how you hate going to the dress store not finding anything to wear or how bad you feel when you husband takes you out to dinner and you are afraid to see a baked potato. Another tool you may call upon is ostracism. You may decide to find another best girlfriend, one who has your best interest in heart; a best girlfriend that would never offer you a Twinkie to eat. Now that we know a substantial part of change involve non physical tools we need to identify these tools so that they can be developed and used when we seek to change. So our problem now turns into the problem of how do we identify and develop these non physical tools and how can we keep them sharpen for use at all times? Seven of the tools we speak of are described in Chapter 13, Preventing Violence Against Women, in Volume Two Part Two, Murder in The Family, of the series Do This In Remembrance of Me. The following is an excerpt from that chapter. “If you do what you have always done. You will always be what you have always been. Pastor T. D. Jakes, 1996 ………. Women must change. Yes, there are particular areas where the violence will be reduced but these areas are not the focus of what we are saying. What we are saying is women must change. Please read out loud the quote of Pastor T. D. Jakes. “If you do what you have always done. You will always be what you have always been. Say it again. If you do what you have always done. You will always be what you have always been. Now substitute the word I for the word you in the quote. If I do what I have always done. I will always be what I have always been. Do see what we are saying. Say it again. If I do what I have always done. I will always be what I have always been. We are saying women can reduce the violence against women by 30% if women change. We are not saying women should make a particular change. We are saying women must change. In order to prevent violence against women, women must CHANGE. Women must evolve. Now many of you are saying this statement is ludicrous. How are we to change? What are we to change? A person cannot change unless he or she knows what they are going to change about themselves. These people sound stupid. They say 30% of the violence against women can be reduced if women change but they don’t say what areas women are to change. We say women must change. We can provide you with a list of situations that will be improved when you change. But these situations will be the result of your change. If we said to you, you must loose weight that would be acceptable because you feel weight is one of the problems you have. If we said to you, you need to wear more make up that would also be acceptable because you may feel you could be more attractive using makeup. But when we say you must change you because agitated. You are not comfortable. You are in unfamiliar territory. The scope is too broad you do not feel sure of yourself. Things must stay the same with just a little modification. To go beyond normal modifications is uncomfortable. No one just changes. Who changes themselves on command? Changes are made incrementally small adjustments over time. Everywhere you look there are crutches to change. If you want to stop smoking purchase a nicotine gum. If you want to lose weight purchase a diet supplement. People are taught they have to use something outside them selves to aid them in changing. In other words people cannot change without the help of someone else or something else. People are impeded from changing because they are conditioned to believe changing is difficult based on someone else’s experience and our failures are reinforced in comparison, yet when mankind is faced with danger mankind changes. Danger is now staring women of this country in the face and women must change. Children are being abducted from their homes. Children are being abducted while playing and the sex offenders are not afraid of being caught. Sex offenders are also entering homes raping and killing women. Hunting women has become a sport. What we are saying is note your behavior and change. Once you grasp this concept then you will understand what we mean when we say women must change. When this country went to war with Japan and Germany, women changed. There were no crutches women changed. They stepped up to the plate and changed. The country was at war so women changed. Our children are now endangered so women must change. Consider this �" there are men sitting and watching and waiting to see what women do everyday. There are men who sit and watch what women do with media information and there will be men watching what women will do after reading this book. Many of you may say that’s ok. We expect men to question our view and we expect men to be interested in what women think. We expect men to wonder what we will do after reading this book. Fine! Everything is going well. But consider this. The men who are sitting and watching and waiting to see what women do every day or what women will do after reading this book are sexual predators, murderers and rapists. Now what is your response? Oh, your response is “What do sexual predators care what women do? Sexual predators vote. Did it not occur to you that rapists and sexual offenders vote they can also be jurors? These men are only excluded from voting if the laws of their states specify they are excluded from voting and that is only if these men have been incarcerated. Not all sexual predators have been incarcerated. Not all sexual predators are in prison. We shall prove this assertion in Volume Three of Do This In Remembrance of Me. There are sexual predators in all walks of life participating in every profession. There are medical doctors who are sexual predators and there are newscasters that are sexual predators. Who do you think are the consumers of the young children and foreign women exploited in this country? These men are sitting quietly watching what women do. They know more about what women do than you do. Sexual predators have one goal and that is the humiliation and the consumption of women. Anything that impedes that goal has to be thwarted. They are watchers of women. Now we have a question for you. How many rapist, molesters and sexual predators do you think are living in this country? Do you have any idea? What if we say there are well over 3 million sexual abusers in this country? Now what is your response? We are not talking about batterers we say there are over 3 million sexual abusers in this country and they are not all incarcerated. In Volume Three, The Career Rapist, we shall prove to you that not all sexual predators are in prison many are living next door to you, some of them are living in your home and some of them are your employer. Think for a second, remember that young woman who was raped in fraternity house so many years ago. Who do you think raped her and what do you think happened to the man who raped her? He received his degree. He probably got a masters. The man who raped that young woman was hired by one of the Fortune 500 companies and is now working an excellent job. Do you think he mended his ways? Connect the dots. What better way to impede the progress of women than voting against women? Women are being murdered in this country every day. All the Institute is saying is women can reduce this violence by 30% by changing. Unless you want to find yourself in a wooded area with a man standing over you shoving his penis down your throat then you must change. Do not delude yourself thinking these things happen to somebody else. Murder can happen to any woman, anywhere, at any time. Murder can happen to all women. One rapist we studied carried a sack of bricks around and used those bricks to bash the heads in of his victims. He was a slight man. Apparently, he doubted his physical strength so he used the bricks to subdue his victims. Another rapist rode around the city on a bicycle carrying a plastic container of gasoline on the handle bars of his bike. After he raped and murdered his victims he used the gasoline to destroy any evidence. He raped and murdered four women between September 9, 1995 and March 27, 1996. While the police were looking for him he was riding around the neighborhood on his bike in plain site. Between December 13, 1937 and February 1938 thousands of Chinese women were raped during the occupation by Japan. Between 300,000 to 500, 000 women and children were rape and murdered. Their bodies were buried, burned or thrown in the Yangtze River. The Japanese did not have the crematoriums like the Germans. In Korea over 30,000 women were taken by Japanese soldiers. They were called comfort women. Image! In Rwanda from 250,000 to 500,000 Tutsi women were raped, massacred and subjected to other brutalities. Sexual violence against women is a favorite tool of men. The link between the gender-based hate and sexual violence is clear. This is why Donald Fell,20, of Vermont murdered his mother, Debra Fell, and Terry King, 53. Both ethnic and gender stereotypes, functioning individually and jointly, fuels sexual violence and no woman is immune to this type of violence. America is importing men from all around the world (Sarah Yaser Said, 17, and Amina Yaser Said, 18, 2008, Texas) who participated in sexual and gender violence in their country as a way of life (Shahpara Sayeed, 2000 Illinois). Do you think these men are going to act any differently once they land on our soil or are allowed to vote. Just who do you think are raping the young women along the Juarez Mexico border? This area is a regular feeding ground for these men. Could it not be that the men who are coming to this country now are not coming from freedom or even the respect of freedom, they are merely coming because they can make money. And when they come they import their morals and values that have nothing to do with the American way. Take a look around you ladies only the Marines fight for freedom the rest of the fighting in the world involves servitude. Niger men routinely raped and beat their wives and sisters. If a man will rape and beat his sister in Niger, do you think he forgets this practice once he arrives on American soil?” Do you think they say, “I will no longer be a rapist once I become an American citizen because Americans believe in the rights of women?” Did you know some Haitians and Africans have imported children to this country and the children have been used as slaves? Imagine importing slave to America after Americans fought one of the largest wars over slavery. Is that not a slap in the face? Is that not the biggest insult to Arlington Cemetery and Bunker Hill Forcing a woman to have sex against her will (rape) is not even a crime in some countries. Need sex just rape your sister or cousin? If she resist, kill her (Mwivano Mwambashi Kupaza, Wisconsin, circa1999). Mrs. Peter Kupaza left her husband after she learned he forced his cousin, Mwivano Mwambashi Kupaza, to get an abortion because he impregnated her. When Mwivano Mwambashi Kupaza resisted having sex again Peter Kupaza killed her and distributed her body parts in six garbage bags. In 2000 he had the unmitigated gall to stand up in court with his ugly self and cry telling the court he did not kill his cousin. Image! You could tell he was the runt of the litter. Was he not a rapist ladies? The Sauk County Sheriff's Department is sent an honor guard to Miss Mwivano Kupaza’s funeral. Do you really believe rapist become inactive after you turn the television off. We are at war ladies. We are in the same position we were in the 1920”s except now we have an entire industry dedicated (television) to turning women in to empty headed, sex objects. You must change. After you change we want you to write Congress, (all members) and demand that they increase the budget to the U.S. Justice Department. Tell them you want 100 FBI agents hired in each state and you want these agents dedicated to irradiating fraud and sexual and gender violence against women and children. Please write ladies. We want 100 FBI agents per state. Forcing a woman into sexual slavery is a violation of her constitutional rights which in many cases causes prostitution to become a federal crime not a state crime (where it is often swept under the rug). We want the pimps incarcerated never to be seen again. It is FBI mission to uphold the law through investigation of violations of federal criminal law; to protect the United States from foreign intelligence and terrorist activities; and to provide leadership and law enforcement assistance to federal, state, local, and international agencies, insure the safety and security of the citizens of the United States. Do not take no for an answer ladies. You have more power than you think. Never let someone tell you what you can and cannot do. Now we would like for you to go into your bathroom where the light is the harshest and stand before the mirror and look at yourself. When you finish looking at yourself, we want you to start your quest to change. Your mirror conversation is for you and no one else. ****** Excerpt from Murder In The Family, ©2008 Touched By The Light Publishing. All Rights Reserved. Touched By The Light, Inc., P.O. Box 4044, Southfield, Michigan 48037 The Institute maintains 5 websites, http://www.nisv.info, http://www.christianbooksellers.biz, http://www.puttingwomenintouch.com, http://www.touchedbythelight.info and http://www.touchedbythelight.biz, all dedicated to the needs of women. Her email address is yithril11@netzero.net

Gloria G. Lee is the founder of The National Institute of The Study Violence. The organization is dedicated to preventing violence against woman and children. To accomplish this goal Gloria Lee has spent the past 10 years researching the murder of 20,000 women. What she learned during her research caused her to develop six goals for the Institute that will significantly reduce the number of women being murdered in this country each year.

Steps To Building Your Self-Confidence
Accept yourself

The very first step in building self-confidence is to accept yourself in an unconditional way. You are human, therefore you are not perfect, so don?t dwell on what you see as flaws. Everyone has qualities that someone else does not. This is what makes us want to go out and find partners who give us love, and make us feel wanted and complete. Those great feelings would not be possible if you were perfect. Accept yourself how you are. It will help to rid you of constant stress and worry over things that you cannot control.

Do what you want!

How long it has been since you last did something that you really liked, something that you enjoyed doing as a child? How long has it been since you went out for ice cream with a friend? These simple things have the power to build your self-confidence and add fulfillment to your life. Life can be very quite simple. It is easy to get caught u in the rat race of today?s world, and lose yourself in the process. It is easy to forget your purpose, what you like and what you enjoy doing. It happens to people all of the time. It is your responsibility to yourself that you get back to those simple things in life.

Find a group of friends

You?ve heard the saying, ?birds of a feather flock together?. It is important to find people with whom you enjoy spending time and doing things. You will find that life is a little bit easier when you are among the people who share your interests and your feelings. There is an understanding between you, as well as an open dialogue. Good conversation and friendship are healthy and important for our minds and souls.

Set goals and just do it!

Take one step at a time. Those single steps will develop into a giant gait over time. Do not overwhelm yourself, but simply do the task at hand. But set achievable goals and go for them! Don?t focus on the big picture, concentrate on the small steps. This is the only way to accomplish anything, and to avoid procrastination and depression. Even the smallest achievement will give you a sense of accomplishment that will boost your self-confidence.

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What do you mean, Impossible?
On our mindset. I believe it affects everything we do, including our attitude towards financial planning. Impossible is Just a Word. Everyone, at some point of his or her life, has dreamed of being somebody special, somebody big. Who hasn't fantasized about being the one who hits the game-winning homer? Who hasn't dreamed of being the homecoming queen? And how many times have we dreamed of being rich, or successful, or financially independent? Often, we dream big dreams and have great aspirations. Unfortunately, our dreams remain just that �" dreams. And our aspirations easily collect dust in our attic. This is a sad turn of events in our life. Instead of experiencing exciting adventures in self actualization, we get caught up in the humdrum of living from day-to-day just barely existing. But you know what? Life could be so much better, if only we learned to aim higher. The most common problem to setting goals is the word impossible. Most people get hung up thinking I can't do this. It's too hard. It's too impossible. No one can do this. However, if everyone thought that, there would be no inventions, no innovations, and no breakthroughs in human accomplishment. Remember that scientists were baffled when they took a look at the humble bumblebee. Theoretically, they said, it was impossible for the bumblebee to fly. Unfortunately for the bumble, bee no one has told it so. So fly it does. On the other hand, some people suffer from dreaming totally outrageous dreams and not acting on them. The result? Broken dreams, and tattered aspirations. If you limit yourself with self-doubt, and self-limiting assumptions, you will never be able to break past what you deem impossible. If you reach too far out into the sky without working towards your goal, you will find yourself clinging on to the impossible dream. If your advice financial planning facts are out-of-date, how will that affect your actions and decisions? Make certain you don't let important advice financial planning information slip by you. Try this exercise. Take a piece of paper and write down some goals in your life. Under one header, list down things ‘you know you can do’. Under another header, write the things ‘you might be able to do.’ And under one more, list the things that that are ‘impossible for you to do.’ Now look at all the headers strive every day to accomplish the goals that are under things ‘you know you can do’. Check them when you are able to accomplish them. As you slowly are able to check all of your goals under that heading, try accomplishing the goals under the other header-the one that reads ‘you might be able to do.’ As of the items you wrote under things I could do are accomplished, you can move the goals that are under things that are ‘impossible for you to do’ to the list of things ‘you might be able to do.’ As you iterate through this process, you will find out that the goals you thought were impossible become easier to accomplish. And the impossible begin to seem possible after all. You see, the technique here is not to limit your imagination. It is to aim high, and start working towards that goal little by little. However, it also is unwise to set a goal that is truly unrealistic. Those who just dream towards a goal without working hard end up disappointed and disillusioned. On the other hand, if you told someone a hundred years ago that it was possible for man to be on the moon, they would laugh at you. If you had told them that you could send mail from here to the other side of the world in a few seconds, they would say you were out of your mind. But, through sheer desire and perseverance, these impossible dreams are now realities. Thomas Edison once said that genius is 1% inspiration and 99% perspiration. Nothing could be truer. For one to accomplish his or her dreams, there has to be had work and discipline. But take note that that 1% has to be a think -big dream, and not some easily accomplished one. Ask any gym rat and he or she will tell you that there can be no gains unless you are put out of your comfort zone. Remember the saying, “No pain, no gain”? That is as true as it can be. So dream on, friend! Don’t get caught up with your perceived limitations. Think big and work hard to attain those dreams. As you step up the ladder of progress, you will just about find out that the impossible has just become a little bit more possible. There's a lot to understand about advice on other stuff, including financial planning. We were able to provide you with some of the facts above, but there is still plenty more to write about in subsequent articles.

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